One of my favorite radio shows is The Breakfast Club with DJ Envy, Angela Yee, and Charlamagne. I’ve been a die-hard hip hop fan since a young age and The Breakfast Club allows me to connect with the hip hop heroes of yore and learn about the new kids on the beat bustin’ block. You may have gotten your first taste of The Breakfast Club this week thanks to a fantastic fit thrown by Baby of Cash Money fame.
While Birdman’s “flappant” ways are hilarious, there’s actually a different video that I want to reference. Back in November 2015 the crew at The Breakfast Club had a small segment entitled, Do Cocky People Bother You? The conversation was fairly heated and touched on everyone from Ronda Rousey to Michael Jordan.
So what is it about cocky and arrogant folks that grind our gears? Where does this unsavory trait come from?
Arrogance is made up of a recipe of negative experiences in childhood or early adulthood, a sense of insecurity, misunderstandings of life, maladaptive self-protection strategies, and an inflated persona to hide the aforementioned character flaws in adulthood.
Arrogance is the act of making false claims about one’s own abilities usually in an overbearing manner. In some people, arrogance stems from a feeling of being lesser than, jealousy of achievements, or feeling slighted in some way. An arrogant comment can burst forth after someone is made to look bad. Arrogance is also prevalent with those that have fears towards showing any kind of vulnerability. Arrogance is actually a crafty little tool. It allows the user to manipulate the perceptions of those around him or her with the goal of creating a self-esteem force field. By keeping one’s self-esteem artificially buffed, one can appear as if they are flawless, special, or of an upper-echelon.
One common mistake many people make is confusing arrogance with confidence. An arrogant person feels best when someone else feels lesser whereas the confident individual feels competent and secure inside and out.
While arrogance is annoying, it should be perceived as a potential cry for help. Try challenging your arrogant friend’s world-view with the goal of better understanding how they think. This may lead to finding out the root causes for one’s arrogant behaviors. By helping your friend better understand and grasp their sense of self you may have one less Arrogant Andy on your hands.
Remember, before you try and act arrogant, put some respeck on it.